Kim Blackett previously appeared in Plan-B Theatre Company’s Script-In-Hand Series reading of STANDING ON CEREMONY: THE GAY MARRIAGE PLAYS, a fundraiser for Equality Utah on November 7, 2011. He is part of the cast of the Script-In-Hand Series reading of “8” on August 4-5, 2012, a fundraiser for Plan-B and the American Foundation for Equal Rights. This posting first appeared on our blog on November 6, 2011.
“Does it feel any different?” I’ve been asked that several times since my partner of 25 years and I got married in Washington, D.C. on October 25. The answer is “YES!” and that was something I was not expecting. I went into this, basically just wanting a piece of paper that said we were legally married after all these years. It turned out I got more. I’ve been trying to figure out what it is that makes it feel different and I can’t come up with anything in words. As far as the relationship goes, everything was put in place – bugs worked out, differences acknowledged and accepted, toilet paper put on the “proper” way on the dispenser – long before the “I Do’s” were uttered. So what changed?
For years I had said that a little piece of paper wouldn’t change anything about my relationship with my partner. After all, it’s just paper. The thought that someone who was given some sort of authority merely mumbling words in front of us would magically change ANYTHING was absurd to me. Surprise! It did change, there IS some sort of magic involved when a government agency acknowledges the love two people have shared for a quarter of a century with an embossed golden seal on a government contract. They said, “Hey, at least this section of the country doesn’t see you as second class citizens. We notice you, We’ve heard you and we want to make it right.” But, that’s still not the only reason it feels different. It just does…and those who try to tell LGBT folks that a piece of paper really doesn’t matter and won’t change anything are wrong. Very wrong. It does and I hope I can spend the next 25 years figuring out a way to explain it in words.
Plan-B Theatre Company’s Script-In-Hand Series reading of “8″ takes the stage August 4-5. A fundraiser for both Plan-B and the American Foundation for Equal Rights, the event boasts a cast of 20 and a post-show discussion with the playwright, Oscar winner Dustin Lance Black, and Congressman Barney Frank (D-Massachusetts). Tickets and more info available here.